Back to the bullying

I checked in with my big-ly and asked her how it was going with the "big girls." In our last installment, little B was being excluded by the big girls and she was feeling quite hurt by it.

When I asked how it was going, she got quite bright and said "great! I forgave them and then they decided to change and allow me in their club. I am glad I gave them another chance to be nice."

I was so surprised, I thought for sure she would update me if this huge issue that was bugging her suddenly reversed. Turns out, nope. This has been for some time. Apparently she has been assigned a cat in the club and the girls love to play together.

Problem is, I am still anti-club. I don't know how much to push it because she is satisfied and I don't want to loose the open conversation with a total eye roll from a 3 year old. I can already hear it. "mooooooommmm, I already toooold you." Sheesh.

We still work it into conversation. Forgiveness, inclusiveness, strong sense of self and never turning your back on a friend. I did get another big hug and she said "thanks for remembering to ask. I am proud that this all worked out."

I am glad I did remember. I wonder how often kids are waiting for someone to just ask the question. Just to ask something like "how did that situation work out anyway?" Probably more often than we would like to admit.